I’ve been debating on writing about this – because I’m utterly mortified about it – but with the urging of Jenn (she makes a great therapist! I need to pay her more. Uh – I mean I need to pay her!) – I’m going to share with you the most recent drama at our house.
So if you’ve been around long enough – you might remember our little “bad hair contest” (I’m linking you to March of last year and you’ll have to scroll through if you want to see them all) that we held last Spring. You know the one — where countless of you sent pictures of your children, or self, or someone you knew that had been on the receiving end of a not so gracious person yielding scissors??! Well, I’m embarrassed to say, that that happened at our house this last week. But I decided I shouldn’t keep this a secret, despite my embarrassment, because you need to know we’re human at our house too!!
I don’t know if I’ve ever mentioned, but I am a piano teacher. Well, Bug had one of her friends over – who happens to have longer and much thicker hair than she does. They’d been playing for hours, and were actually rather rambunctious the entire time. I’d been hoping they’d settle down once my piano lessons started coming. They did a bit – or at least they stayed up in Bug’s room where the noise wasn’t as distracting. Anyway, when Bug’s friend’s mom came to pick her up and take her home, I was in the middle of a lesson. As I’m sitting with my student I hear, “Did you cut your hair?” I thought, “No – she couldn’t have just said that.” So I excused myself from my student to go investigate what was going on. As I came up my stairs to see where her friend Miss K. was sitting – it was very evident there was a bit of her hair that had been cut off on the one side of her face. Miss K. was wearing her hair down on this particular day, and it looked like someone had bluntly cut a piece about as wide as my pinky finger off on one side. Upon questioning, turns out it was Bug’s idea to cut it. If looks could have killed on this particular day …. I was in the middle of my piano lesson and couldn’t totally deal with it at the moment. So I told Bug to go find the hair she’d cut off (I knew it had to be a rather long piece, because Miss K has long hair.) But with tears and more tears, she claimed she couldn’t find it.
I apologized profusely to Miss K’s mom and told Bug I’d deal with her after my piano lesson was over. Long story short – we never found the hair, and luckily it was just a little section and not a major chop chop all over her friends hair. The frustrating thing is — Bug TOTALLY knows better. She’s 5 1/2 — why in the world would she think it was ok to cut her friends hair? I’ve always been very uptight with letting the girls have scissors – for the fear they’d cut their own hair – but it never entered my mind that they’d cut someone else’s! Anyway, Bug helped choose her punishment – to ensure it doesn’t happen again. So she’s grounded from friends for 2 weeks, and because she thought Miss K might need a trim to help blend things in (which I don’t know if that will happen, since it really wasn’t too bad) she gave Miss K all her $ from her piggy bank to put towards a hair cut (which amounted to a couple dollars I think.) Now she has to clean up to earn money since the $ she had in her piggy bank wasn’t enough for a hair cut, should her mom choose to go that route. Yes, I’m a mean mom – but tough love has got to happen some times at our house. I took Bug over to her friends house later that night for her to apologize to both the Mom and her friend. She wrote her friend an apology note and gave her all her money. The note was sort of cute/sad. It said hopefully she’d still be her friend, and she was ‘giving her all her money so she would be happy.’ It was a good learning experience for her!
Anyway, I’d like to publicly apologize as well, to Miss K’s mom – as public as this gets I guess. I’m so sorry that Bug cut Miss K’s hair. All scissors are out of her reach now, so hopefully they can play again once she’s ungrounded. (fingers crossed!)
If you’ve ever been in my shoes, I’d be curious to know what – if anything – happened to your child after they’d played barber to someone else!??
Of course, I don’t have a picture of any of this – just the whole thing frozen in my mind — that yes, MY child – did it to someone else. I feel so bad! Luckily, Miss K’s mom was nice about it — and hopefully doesn’t hate our guts now! 🙂 I think, however, Bug has learned her lesson and hopefully nothing like this will ever happen again.
Ahhhh – I feel much better now – that I let you in on our little secret! And hey, while I’m in the sharing mood – I’ll let you in on another secret!
I don’t comb my kids hair every day. Really. Ok, well – for school – yes, and church yes. But most Saturday’s, and on day’s we don’t have school — the girls hair usually doesn’t get done. Nope. And *GASP* – my husband even takes them to the store (and every blue moon I do) without their hair combed. *GASP!* I have so many people thinking that we look like we’re heading to a prom or a wedding every single day. AB.SO.LUTELY. NOT! We really aren’t super human hair doers over here! Honest. In fact – Bug, especially, loves to not have her hair done. She likes to get dirty in the garage with her Dad. This last weekend, she put on her grubbies (aka jeans with holes, an old t-shirt and uncombed hair), and headed out to help rotate the tires, and change the oil on the Sequoia with him. She must have gotten cold, cuz she found The Dad’s “neat” orange beanie and was sporting that with her grubby purple coat!
So – see? We’re just normal people – with silly, crazy kids that don’t always do what you want them to! Anyway, hope you don’t mind me sharing this with you. I just know there is a false impression that might come about by me having this blog that’s all about hair. And in reality – we are only human! 🙂
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